The Love Dare: Love agrees in Prayer – Day 37

January 30, 2018 Facebook Twitter LinkedIn Google+ Build a home,Find love,Friendship,Relationship,Share the word

“Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.” – Mathew 18:19

If you are married, you will agree with me that it is very difficult to pray even for food when you have a serious disagreement with your spouse. Many times, one of you would ask the other to pray knowing all too well that it would be very hypocritical to pray if you are not talking to each other. It’s a very sly test.

Developing a culture of praying together daily as a family is a challenge to many couples myself included. With our busy schedules, probably evening classes, by the time you get home you are so tired, that you want to drop dead – and get to bed almost immediately. If you have children, it becomes a little bit more complicated. They require your attention, and by the time you are done with them, there is no further energy left to open and read a verse from Psalms (forget about Leviticus) and even utter a word of prayer. We comfort ourselves – that God will understand.

I have been amazed at the several times when we have jointly prayed for certain issues that affected us both at an individual and family level with my wife and God has answered our prayers. The only problem is maintaining that consistency. At times you are able to have prayers for 2-3 days consecutively, then something crops up and you find going for several days without praying together.

Through today’s dare, I have come to realize that it’s very critical for a husband and wife, to deliberately set some time apart regularly to pray together. This is over and above individual prayers. For you to pray together, it will require that you both clear up “outstanding issues”. It will demand that your first forgive one another, in order to receive the same forgiveness from God. It’s a nice way to ensure that there are no unresolved issues between couples, when they have to pray together.

When you kneel down in prayer and ask God to give you guidance as you make investment decisions, as you decide on schooling for your children, as you decide on your next career moves, as you decide on church involvement, as you decide on in-laws matters, He will hear and answer your prayers – especially when you pray so together. Your spouse should be your prayer partner, the one you ask to join you as you make a prayer, the one you can request for prayers regarding not only issues affecting you as an individual but also the family as a whole.

Even if your prayers together are heavily summarized, it’s a good starting point. You need not be that person of “mkondo” who would pray for hours on end. Since you have already agreed in principle, the joint prayer should be a moment when you let God to know your thoughts as a family and the areas where you need Him to come in and intervene. It should be precise, and it should allow both of you to open your hearts and let God speak to you individually as well.

When you finally start enjoying this sweet hour of prayer together with your spouse, you will find that the many struggles that you used to face are no more or are greatly diminished. You will get a clear sense of direction.  Whenever you have a fight with your spouse, you will be able to resolve it faster so as not to miss the sweet hour of prayer. Start today, don’t give up even if you miss one or two days, the objective here is to make it regularly – weekly might be a good place to start.


Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together. Talk about the best time to do this, whether it’s in the morning, your lunch hour, before bedtime or on weekends. Use this time to commit your concerns, disagreements, and needs before the lord. Don’t forget to thank Him for His provision and blessings. Even if your spouse refuses to do this, resolve to spend this daily time in prayer yourself.