The Love Dare: Love endures – Day 39

January 30, 2018 Facebook Twitter LinkedIn Google+ Build a home,Find love,Friendship,Relationship,Share the word

Marriage life can be tough at times. Many times your spouse can say certain words that are hurtful. He or she may say them over and over again, and this even hurts even more.  He or she may do certain things that may hurt you deeply. When you look at all these happenings around you – you come to one simple conclusion – you are done with the marriage. You cannot take it anymore. The trust that you had built over the years have been shattered and razed to the ground in a matter of hours, days or weeks.

Regardless of these challenges, if you gather the courage to talk to your spouse about these issues, and he or she dismisses you, it can hurt a lot especially when you are the one who feels wronged and have gone ahead to extend the olive branch. You find that your spouse has not only hardened his position, but he or she actually blames you for the whole thing. Although you were the victim in this case, the tables are turned and you are labeled the aggressor.

It’s at such a moment that your love for your spouse is tested. During the heat of the moment, a lot of hurtful words can be uttered directly to the “offending” party. In these moments, all caution is thrown to the wind, and accusations and counter accusations become the name of the game. The blame game is endless. It almost becomes like the story of the egg and the chicken – which came first.

You should not quit on your spouse. If love can be told to quit or stop loving, then that is not love itself, because love does not give up. You need to offer to love your spouse, even if they don’t recognize your love anymore. Because love is a choice, you love not because you will receive something in return – but because it’s the right thing to do, to love your spouse unconditionally.

When you have done everything in your power to obey God, your spouse may still forsake you and walk away – just as Jesus followers did to Him. But if your marriage fails, if your spouse walks away, let it not be because you gave up or stopped loving them. For love never fails.

Choose today to overcome all challenges and stick with your spouse. Do not yet give up on your marriage and feel like it’s beyond repair. Although every circumstance in the last couple of days or weeks could be indicating otherwise, chose to remain firm in your quest for restoration of your marriage. Some of your friends might consider you desperate, but even Peter was used of Jesus despite denying him three times. He was the most trusted and sort of “Team Leader”, yet he completely denied knowing Jesus.

What I have come to learn is that when one spouse, softens his or her position, and is willing to go all the way to make the other party much happier and comfortable, more often than not, the other party responds favorably. It may take a couple of days, weeks or even months, to turn around a situation where the only route your marriage was heading was divorce, to a situation where you can celebrate God’s faithfulness in helping you overcome those challenges.

So today your dare is to put your unfailing love into the most powerful, personal words you can. This is your moment to declare that no matter what imperfections exist – both in you and in your spouse – your love is greater still. No matter what they have done or how often they’ve done it, you choose to love them anyway. Though you have been far from steady in your treatment of them over the years, your days of being inconsistent in love are over. You accept this one man or woman as God’s special gift to you, and you promise to love them until death do you part.

Because Love never fails.


Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse. Include why you are committing to this marriage until death, and that you have purposed to love them no matter what. Leave it in a place that your spouse will find it.